Tuesday, April 27, 2010


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I believe in a time-tested maxim: if you have nothing good to say about someone, it's best not to say anything at all. In short, what we call "bitching" is quite an unhealthy practice. Some compulsively speak ill of people, others do it for fun or for personal vendetta; to score one over another or to rocket one's ego; the sense of "I am Right, you're Wrong." Before you know it, it becomes a habit & the habit transmogrifies into a negative character trait, hence opening up a Pandora's box .We often mistake "venting" for "bitching".  Venting may be good, the latter is not. One need NOT translate into the other. It's a personal choice, and I'm sure we're mature enough to make the right one. Spread the good word!


By the way, I've just realized the reason for my steadily declining blog posts. No, it's not just a decently busy schedule but an addiction for brevity. In simpler terms, an inclination towards the micro-blogging monster that is Twitter. However, although brevity is considered the soul of wit, bibliophiles will agree that nothing beats a full-blown written conversation. Which is why I try to bring myself back to my writing roots; back to my blog and breaking free of the 140 word-limit shackles.


The city of Mumbai is dotted with gigantonormous slums. Millions reside in these inadequate spaces and it is this forced proximity that perhaps strikes an instant kinship amongst them; making every joy & sorrow a shared sentiment. The street outside my house is often witness to the bonding these slum-dwellers share in many walks of their lives, where they sing & dance together as a secular unit at festivals, lose themselves in the merriment of a mate's first step into marital bliss, grieve on each other's shoulder on someone's passing and gang up against the tide when one of their own is shown in poor light. Irrespective of the occasion, I have seen them enjoy their slice of life to the hilt, augmented by playful gossip & ranting debates. Loneliness is, by habit, an unknown feeling for them. 

In this vast, vast city, where distances or the lack of it can kill conversations, this bonhomie is indeed a visual & spiritual treat. As I write this, there is a considerable din brewing up downstairs, which is an indication of another approaching excuse for merriment. So for the meantime, I shall cool my fingers & become a busy observer. Till next time …

"Evolve Your Mind" by Jesi


  1. Anonymous6:56 AM

    Well written Chang. Always look forward to your article-postings in your blog; so are your short twitter notes. Of the two, like your blog articles better as they speak out your mind, heart and the Chang's thought process.

    I agree with your first observation on "bitching". It's so true and I always wonder that the world would be a better place if everyone stops "bitching".

    It's like the story that a man walking down the road and encountered a distressed fellow man by the roadside. He can do one of three things:
    1) just walk past without any feel and do nothing.
    2) gets annoyed with the distressed man's plight getting on his way, kicks and shouts at the distressed man.
    3) lends his support as a good Samaritan to give help to the distressed man in a little or big way as he can afford to do.
    The learnings in:
    1) being neutral - one has not caused any harm to anyone, nor did any good to help others.
    2) stretching out one's hands to hurt others, without any cause, who have not offended you in any way. This is synonymous with "bitching" - slapping others in the face for no reasons.
    3) doing something human by lending a hand to help others. A good deed done - beyond the call of duty !!!
    Of the three choices, it's upt to us to make a mark in our lives.
    The above example apppears in one form or another in our daily life. It is upto us to make a difference.

  2. I really like the alterations on your template. I always wondered what made people belong to mumbai instantly when , if they go to other cities , they may feel like outsiders and uneasy outside the comfort zone of their friends. Is it because the people here are too busy witht heir own lives? Anyone can fit right in. because there are no grpups as such. or if there are, they aren't so deep that you can't be included. Yet at he time of calamity, this is immensely helpful. You help everyone. No constraints to choosing who to help or vice versa. double-edged sword?

  3. okie sothe jist of it comes as "kisi ka katta nahi karna chahiye"

    i found this post so connected coz ppl joke and and tend to show their superiority via the complex intermingling of jokes along with humiliation.
    jokes are good , but not at the stake of somebody's laugh

    touche words sir!

  4. right Chang,bitching is one of the most commonly habit found in people.honestly,even i am not spared of it bt thats not my habit .i don't get one thing y we waste our time in talking about those people whom we don't like ?

  5. I like to see you wring again! :D Good stuff! And i so agree with the bitching part! I recent wrote a post on this on my blog too! :)

  6. Anjani5:43 PM

    Well said, but what I want to know is, What about those poor, deluded people who think bitching is the means to their satisfying end? Surely, there's more justification than that they have just five functioning brain cells, and a metaphorical stick wedged firmly where-sticks-should-not be-wedged.

  7. Hey Meiyang,

    Saw Ur Movie........on second day itself.....but was busy for a while.

    U did a real good job......played ur part perfect.....BTW...do they teach acting to doctors as well.......lol.

    Hope to see u winning the best supporting actor award for the year 2010.......nd in many more different roles....since an actor is born......:)

    Keep up that smile......nd take care..........,

    nd leave us wondering where will u pop up from next.....:)

  8. Well written Chang. I hope you're ok with me calling you Chang.

    I completely agree with you on the "bitching" part. But I guess it is done by people for the core reason of one's satisfaction of letting off steam/anger of the pain the other is coursing them. Not that I believe it is right.

  9. good work bhaiya...
    especially the lines "Loneliness is, by habit, an unknown feeling for them."